How to… Spice Up Your Sex Life
Has the dreaded R word (routine) hit your bedroom big time? You’re not alone. Every day, millions of couples live next to each other, hardly ever bothering to get on top of each other. Put simply, as time passes by, sex goes lower and lower the list of priorities. And the nasty thing is, you may not even think that it’s a big deal. That is, not until THAT morning when you wake up, look over at your partner, and wonder why you are both living such a dull and boring sex life.
So to save you from the above scenario, read on and find out how to spice up your sex life.
Spice Tip #1. Build your stamina for sex.
First things first… are you fit for sex? As I’ve mentioned quite a couple of times before, it’s important to be fit if you really want to have sex often. If you’re not, sex becomes like a very hard chore. So instead of looking forward to glorious orgasms, you’re dreading the ‘effort’ required to engage in sex! Of course, apart from the great sex, you also get to reap all the wonderful benefits of being fit and healthy so why delay?
Spice Tip #2. Make time for sex.
Most of us lead very hectic lifestyles so I completely understand it when people tell me that they don’t have time for sex. However, when you take a moment to list down what you do spend time on and try to relate that to your relationship, it’s almost funny what we do to occupy our time!
For instance, someone once told me that they don’t ever have morning sex because he needs to run out the door right way to avoid traffic to work. I dug deeper and most of the time, this was a false sense of security anyway because he’s still always stuck in traffic!
So, as an experiment, I asked them to try morning sex for two weeks. No rushing out the door. And guess what, they discovered they can spend at least 30 minutes of cozy time before he really needs to leave for the day.
So, make a list of what occupies your day, your week, your month.
Beside each activity mark if it’s something that contributes to your relationship. If not, is it important enough that it’s ok if your relationship falters because of it?
This exercise should bring perspective into your claim that you don’t have time for great sex.
Spice Tip #3. Lead a sex-focused life.
When I mention this, people have the wrong notion that I mean handcuffs, bondage, or at the very least, tons of vibrators. Not true at all. You can be sex-focused without being a sex addict. Just make sex a priority by ensuring that you NEVER go a month without engaging in making love at least THRICE.
To encourage this, make small changes such as the following: re-decorate your room and give it a more adult and romantic theme; put a stash of adult literature in your bedroom; have a small – and locked! – box where you can place sex toys in; have a sex game you can easily grab and use; if you have kids, create a schedule where they spend weekends or even just a night with someone else; and so on.
Spice Tip #4. Master foreplay.
Here’s a secret: nearly all women complain that their lovers don’t engage in enough foreplay. So make another man’s weakness your strength. Know everything you can about foreplay and shock your lover at just how ‘attentive’ you can be.
Spice Tip #5. Aim to be a sex god.
After you master foreplay, great sex is definitely not far behind. You see, in reality, most couples engage in EXACTLY THE SAME sex moves and positions over and over again. You know what this tells me? Boring! So, keep enriching your arsenal of sex ideas, activities, and positions all the time!
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