Techniques To Excite Her (Without Touching Her)
“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it.” – Anonymous
Sex isn’t always about the rubbing and petting – it’s about that connection, at least for us ladies. While it’s true that sex can sometimes be just about the physicality of it all, women find it easier to engage in steamy sex when they feel that they’re connecting with their partner on a higher level. We thrive off of non-verbal cues. A quick wink or sly smile can make our panties wet (it’s the truth!)
Be vocal
Speak up! Tell her what you’re fantasizing about, what you love that she does to you, what you love to do to her. Hearing these devious acts put into actual words can be a major turn-on (just plan on what you’re going to say before you blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. And don’t be too smutty, unless your wife is that kinda gal, like moi!)
Act it out
Feeling turned on? Touch yourself while you catch her gaze across the room. Give her a mischievous wink. Lick or bite your lip ever so slightly.
When I know a guy is turned on just by looking at him, it gets my juices flowing. So don’t be shy to capitalize on these cues.
A naughty message
Busy lives translate into not having a lot of time for foreplay and to build up the momentum. I get that. So why not send your wife a dirty text, email, or even picture? A guy I was seeing once sent me on my phone an up-close shot of his soldier at full attention while I was at work – I don’t have to tell you how quickly I raced home that afternoon!
Go back to basics
Remember when you and your wife were first dating – there was all that lovey dovey stuff, with the hand-holding, the long gazes, the little expressions of affection? We thrive off of that. Try and recall the simple things you would do to get your wife all smitten, like a look across a room, and go back to the basics.
Sometimes, a guy being vulnerable enough to wink at me is the thing that sounds off bells in my head (not to mention elsewhere).
Whisper in her ear
A woman’s ears are highly sensitive to a variety of sensations, so the sound of you quietly relaying a message to her along with the warm feeling of your breath will send shivers down her spine. Afterward, gently blow on her neck. Then, well, brace yourself!
MWAH!
Gabrielle Moore
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Steven
Says:
How can you tell if a woman is turned on by you and to what extent? For example, you mention that a woman is wet just after a wink or a smile. Is this the case if I put my hand on the small of her back? It is difficult for us guys to calibrate to what extent a woman is turned on by us.
mick
Says:
Well steve,
Not all women will display that side of them. However, there will be signs like a change in facial appearance and sometimes they’ll find themselves caught off guard. So, most times they will have to tell you or you’re gonna have to get to know your women a lot better.
manuel salcido
Says:
Well I think what u publish is good but , do u have any DVD for it???
Henry Braun
Says:
I can’t do everything in 1 day give some time .
and of course my Wife comes home next week.
robert garjian
Says:
i will try this technique i hope it will be effective
Angel
Says:
Hi Gabrielle, I wld appreciate if you could share a few tips on how to turn my boyfriend on during foreplay as your article is mainly on how to arouse the woman..many thanks!!
Lisa Chociej
Says:
Well, “Steve”, I am married to a wonderful guy.
BUT, I will tell you from a woman’s perspective (at least how I think women usually want things) and that is that her boyfriend, husband, or whomever she is with who is male MUST show that he is paying careful attention to her when she is getting “in the mood”.
That means, carefully observing through sight, hearing, touch and smell that she is ok and ready for that.
Women, (especially those who have been victims of rape or other abuse), NEED to be very very carefully treated. Rushing through the process on a repeated basis (even for women who have never had the abuse) CAN become a major turn off.
Because it gets boring! Or, in cases where abuse is in her past, could trigger flashbacks and other problems…For such a woman, it is best to take things REALLY REALLY slow, reassure her that you care about her, love her, she’s gorgeous to you, etc.
You would do best to really take the time to talk to her, ask her what she wants or needs, and then do as asked.
Those are my tips.
Above all, treat all women with respect-NO ABUSE EVER ALLOWED- for her or you.
Mrs. Lisa Chociej
Larry
Says:
Hello all. My wife recently told me that she has had greater success getting off with a clitoral orgasm vs. a g-spot/vaginal orgasm – she says they are more intense. I brought her to a similar point with a g-spot/vaginal orgasm the other day, but not without some intense foreplay. I was tired after the foreplay! We have also been experimenting with some light bondage/rougher sex acts and scenarios. They make her wet with anticipation, and that is hard to do, because she doesn’t lubricate easily.