The Mystery Of Female Oral Sex!
Pleasuring your partner is an important part of a great sex life. You definitely know that, right? Well, one of the best ways to pleasure her is by giving her a little selfless attention – that means doing something hot to make her feel amazing even when you’re not getting anything back . . . at least not at that moment.
I’m talking about oral sex or, in this case, cunnilingus.
The good news is that oral sex can be amazingly pleasurable for your partner. The bad news is a lot of guys just don’t know what their doing and that ruins the experience for both of partner. But you’re not going to be one of those guys.
Let’s look at some pointers to improve your oral sex aptitude.
Oral sex is one of those things guys have to pretty much learn how to do on their own. It’s not like driving a car where they can ask their dad for advice and it’s not even like vaginal sex which you learn how to do from watching a couple of X-rated films. You’re pretty much on your own with this one so let’s look at three techniques you can use to become outstanding in the oral sex department.
First, you’ve got to know how to move your tongue. The best analogy to describe this is a cat or a dog drinking water from a bowl. When they’re lapping up that water, their tongue is going in and out of their mouths pretty fast, right? Well, that’s the same type of movement you’re trying to achieve. Short and fast is the way to turn up the heat and rev up her clitoris.
Of course, using just “lapping” techniques won’t necessarily win you a prize in bed; you’ve got to know how to spice things up. After you use the first technique for a little bit, mix it up and try a rotation technique. Instead of moving your tongue in and out, keep it in and moving it a circular motion. This motion works amazingly well with the clitoris (circular motion also does the trick in vaginal intercourse, too) and can sometimes be just what she needs to push her over the top.
Now I know some of these cunnilingus sessions can last a pretty long time and a man’s tongue can get pretty tired (we do appreciate the effort though!), so when you start wearing down, give your tongue a break and try humming instead. That’s right – I said humming. Pick any tune you want and hum away but the trick is to keep your face in position. The vibration from your humming will travel up through her vagina and stimulate her clitoris. Basically, you’re becoming her own special vibrator.
Sometimes, guys, you just can’t do it alone. Now I’m not suggesting you bring in a friend, but I am suggesting you pack along a special surprise in your pocket for her: a sex toy. You can choose almost any type of sex you want, but keep in mind one thing: Where am I going to use it? If you don’t mind sharing your tongue space with a vibrator or dildo – and many guys don’t – then any of those choices are fine. My suggestion though is to invest in a toy designed specifically of anal stimulation. Even though your woman may frown on anal intercourse (especially if she’s had a bad experience), the truth is that stimulation in that region – when done correctly – can be pretty intense and can even lead to G-spot orgasms! Plus, if you’re pleasuring her in one area and your “friend” is pleasuring her in another, then your partner is definitely going to be one happy lady, especially after a few minutes.
And you’re likely to be happy, too. A satisfied woman is very likely to turn right around and repay you for your efforts. Maybe with a little fellatio. After all, what man doesn’t love getting oral sex?
While we’re on the subject of oral sex though, I want to mention safety. I’m not trying to kill the mood but you’ll have a lot more fun if you’re protected than if you end up seriously regretting your actions a few months down the road if you know what I mean. While oral sex won’t cause pregnancy, you and your partner can still transmit diseases that way. It may not be romantic but you need to invest in dental dam which covers your teeth and tongue during the act so you don’t exchange bodily fluids during the act. Trust me, you’ll be thankful you did.
Now go out there and start pleasuring your woman with amazing cunnilingus . . . safely.
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arnie
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Maybe I am weird but I like Oral Sex the most because I have a better orgasm.
Keith
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I just love giving a woman oral Gabby!! Now with my wife, since I know her so well, I do plenty with her and if any guy gets the chance to enjoy her too, please listen in! My wife loves the tongue variation all around her pussy and then to her clit after slow attention prior to it. Too, before a lot of clit attention will have done so in and all on her pussy! And then followed with toys just as Gabby suggested. Now I use a dildo vibrator on her pussy lips and in her pussy, spending plenty of time to have given her at least one orgasm(she is multi) and then when she is feeling so good I add a vibrating butt plug to it!! That coupled with the dildo vibrator in her pussy really sends her! That is when I then start with the oral on her clit with alot of attention in addition to keeping those vibrators playing too!!! For my wife, when her clit is getting aroused start sucking it too!!! That makes her go wild!! Guys, let me suggest being in a 69 position on your side with your lady too while doing it because believe me, once you have given her all this she will be wanting your cock, so why not have it right up there near her mouth when she is ready!! With all that oral and vibrator stimulation going on, she will be so hungry for you and devour you!!! ENJOY!!!
Art Lorenz
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Hi Gabrielle,
Some interesting thoughts that will definitely be on my docket for giving the “Ole college try.”
When ever I read most of your articles, I have the great urge to plant my cock in your pussy and pump away!!! Guess arousement is the name of the game and I’m ready to play.
Art
Pete
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Hi Gabrielle, I’ve always thought of myself as being pretty good at giving my lady oral sex, but I never thought of bringing a toy (vibrator) into the pictyre with me. That’s a great idea and I’ve got just the one that is, I think perfect for the job. A small vibrating egg. Well I have a new lady that I’ve met online, though we haven’t met in person yet, I really like a lot and hope to have a lasting relationship with. Your advice I think will help very much. Thank you Gabrielle.
Timothy Leary ******
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Thanque 4 the tips Gabrielle, I already used some of the techniques spelled out, but always/all ways appreciate further information and advice!!
The 1 thing I look 4ward 2 meeting my fiance and pleasing her beyond her wildest dreams with my VERY willing tongue(among many other similar parts)!
Timothy
Ron
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Hi beautiful Gabrielle! Thankyou for the great oral sex tips! Love, Ron
Carl Didier
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I took the 5 Steps and three different women taught me oral sex:
1-the first was a call girl from Columbia, working in Beruit in the early ‘70, named Louse.
2-the second was an ex-call girl from Singapore, married to an ex-friend in Tehran in the mid ‘70, named Nellie. She gave head like no one else that I’ve ever met.
3-The third was a retired call girl in London named Joanna, who taught me over several years and many trips to London.
What you state is your opinion and a good one; but there are other ways for a man to give oral sex to a women and pleasure her repeatedly, to multi-climaxes, until she begs you to stop.
Take your time, use your tongue to slide up the inner lips and down the other one. Flick the magic button gently, put your lips around it and suck gently. This brings more blood into the clitoris while you circle it with your tongue. Repeatly sucking, different strengths, and tongue action generally brings amazing results.
With her climax, the bucking starts, and its often difficult to stay on the button. This is when flicking of the tongue can be brought into play.
After, the little clitoris is sensitive and tender. Back off and play the outter and inner lips and the enterance of the vagina. The inside of the bottom of the man’s lower lip is smoother and less of an irritant to the clitoris then the tongue. Make contact first with that surface. Circle the clitoris with your lips, no tongue, and slide back and forth gently. This should start another climax. Continue on and on.
All ladies are individuals and will react differently to oral sex. You must learn your lover’s reactions and tailor your response accordingly.
I have been lucky to have such experiensed instruction on this very importante point. I have satisfied many young ladies in my time, and am still satisfying one, my wife, even now.
I am not a young man bragging about his dick size (I am about average) but the benifits of oral sex, both giving and receiving, are boundless. I’ve lived overseas for more then 30 years (I’m an engineer) and learned from many young ladies, bless them all. A good lover, who enjoys oral sex, can learn to satisfy almost any women, and can do better as he learns. I’m 74 and still learning. Now you are teaching me.
rawnette johnson
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i love oril sex but my boyfriend wont do it i dont know why becuse i do it to him and im his girlfriend that makes me sad
Bro.Ashraf Yacoub
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MY BELOVED PARTNER HAS A VERY SMALL TINY CLITORIOUS,I CANNOT SEE IT ARROUSED OR BIGGER,WHAT AND HOW CAN I WARM HER UP ORALY AND FOR HOW LONG? SPECIALLY I BELIEVE,EVEN,WHEN OR IF SHE IS ENJOYING SHE DOESN’T WANT TO SHOW IT!DON’T KNOW WHY?
Sunny
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…tnx 4 those great tips on oral sex. I’ve not really tried it out before but I now hope to try it out…
Ellen
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Firstly I’d like to say thank you Gab for informing all men out there how much us women love oral. Secondly, Bro.Ashraf could you try not yelling? I highly doubt that a woman is able to hide her clit. Every woman is different and even if you can’t see if perhaps you should learn to feel it. If she is enjored it and she doesn’t want to show it she may be embaressed believing that pleasure isn’t right when created through oral or even just that she doesn’t feel there is enough sexual trust between you two. Gab I don’t know if you have, but could you please explain about sexual trust and relating issues because I believe this may help Bro.Ashraf and other men too. First you stimulate a woman’s brain then her body, men are simple, you play with their body, give them visuals more likely then not he will get aroused. The stages of arousal are the same but take longer to reach the same phase as a man. I hope this helped and I hope that Gab will continue to help also!
Rick
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Even though clit licking gives my lovely lady her best orgasms this causes a problem. It makes my top lip sore and I get a rash below my nose that lasts a couple of days. I would happily put up with the rash and the slight discomfort to know she is really in top gear and ready for my finger to stimulate ger g-spot. She will still be coming well when I’m inside her and I can let myself go as soon as I like. The problem is that she doesn’t like me to get the rash because she thinks her friends know how I get it and, as several are manless, they might get horney and take a fancy to me. I wonder if shaving her pussy very short would cure this problem. At the moment I just give her a gentle ‘trim’ down to about half an inch because its a good length for easy maintenance and keeping clean. If anyone else has had this problem and found a cure please advise.
Wendell
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This all sounds so wonderful. Problem is, my wife of 10 years will not let me give her oral. She will do me at times, but when I try to go south no no. She is one of these very conservitive women and thinks getting oral is taboo and nasty. She loves my finger stimulation and occasionally a vibrator but no tongue. I am so frustrated, I want to pleasure her this way so much but can’t.