Ways Masturbation Can Improve Your Sex Life
For years it was a widely-known fact that guys enjoy frequent self-pleasure, but it’s only recently come out that us girls enjoy the same solo play too. Apart from the obvious, there are lots of ways masturbation can improve your sex life.
From discovering your own hotspots (and sharing them with your mate) to lasting longer in the sack, self-fondling can be incredibly self-rewarding, not to mention fantastic for your other half. Do it alone behind closed doors or out in the open in front of your wife – both ways are satisfying, sexy and healthy. So here are some ways masturbation can improve your sex life.
Self-exploration
Nothing is more gratifying than learning more about your own body and what makes you tick. It’s a common and beneficial way to figure out what it is you do like (and maybe what you don’t like). This form of self-discovery will make everything from foreplay to sex that much more enjoyable.
Just make sure you pass this learned info on to your spouse – sure, it’s great to get yourself off but it will be ten times more passionate if you tell your wife what to do (and she does it, and you have a mind-blowing orgasm…)
Last longer
Very often, guys who masturbate frequently are able to maintain their erections and delay ejaculation for a longer period of time. This goes back to my first point – when you masturbate on a regular basis, you learn about your body and you become more in-tune with your biological reactions. Once you really familiarize yourself with the sensations that occur during sex, you can actually teach yourself how to hold off – you’ll start to recognize the triggers and you can then find new ways to fend off your impulses and hence, last longer.
I was dating this guy for a few months who could go forever in bed (the anti-minute-man). But, as we started spending “everyday” time together, we also started to learn more about each other… and it didn’t take me long to figure out that in addition to shaving and washing in the shower every morning, he was also choking the monkey. And let me tell you – to this day he was the only guy I was ever intimate with who had complete control of his load – it made oral and conventional sex fantastic!
Keep the balance
It’s rare for people who have been in long-term relationships to always be “in the mood” at the same time – maybe you’d be happy with sex five times a week but she’s only interested in it once or twice. Well, masturbation can be a great “filler” for those dry spells. Keep yourself satisfied (and balanced) by taking things into your own hands (literally). You don’t always need her and she doesn’t always need you.
Two-sided
While women and masturbating is a topic that isn’t as faux pas as it once was, there are still a lot of ladies who feel embarrassment, shame, or even humility when it comes to openly discussing their self-pleasuring. So let your partner know that you’re not only okay with it but encourage her to explore and share her findings as well.
Yours forever,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. DON’T FORGET TO LEAVE YOUR COMMENTS BELOW! (If you’re shy, feel free to use a nickname)
neo
Says:
am so happy for all the tips u give that have healed my relationship and made me and my mate more open and honest about our feelings and what we love. we used to both feel kinda shy to express certain things,,,, now we freely speak and enjoy each other,,,thank u gabby
nathan
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hmmmmm some parts your wrong >. in most men frequent masturbation can be bad . If a man masturbates he is doing this to achieve orgasm (cum) he is gonna try and do this as soon as possible to avoid risk off being caught..there for he is training his ejaculation system to come as soon as he can,its like the body has a memory and is doing what he done before this is causing PREMATURE EJACULATION and masturbation on a regular basis is the cause for this there is a special technique you can use to train your body to last longer and enjoy multiple orgasm with out ejaculation and stub-stain and full erection basicly you got the felling off ejaculating but not accualy coming out im telling you this is possible and premature ejaculation is extremely hard to get rid off due to anxiety … but there is a cure and im willing to work along side off you to help men with this problem its one off the most common question from a guy how to last longer now this tecnique ull last as long as you want ….
Nathan
John Saari
Says:
Yes Gab, you’re right! Masturbation do increase the staying power of the cock. I do masturbate regularly and my little brother is taking instructions like when to ejeculate and to stay erect to enhance my pleasure! Keep up your good advice to all out there!
E Andrews
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I tried to talk my wife into this and she went ballistic.
I guess she just isn’t interested in this.
jose f diaz
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I LIKE DAD I WAS LIKE TO Laern MORe .
Dave
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Hello, this is so very true. I have masturbated since I was about 10 years old and it has helped me a lot when both the wife or what ever woman I was with did not want sex to making the sex with my woman a lot more fantastic because I could control how soon or late I wanted to ejaculate by knowing what turned me on and off.
Dave
Ed Weinsberg
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It’s possible to masturbate to excess, when instead of preparing for better interaction with a partner, self-stimulation replaces two-way interaction. Saying “each to their own” may be self-defeating when one member of a couple is left out.
bob g
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Me and my wife wank together a lot, especially when we’re not in the mood or go to bed very late. We get off watching each other and both have the right sex toys to add that little bit of spice. Always be careful not to replace sex with a sly wank instead
Shady
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Lovely!
Francis
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Ejaculation control is easier for older men. Young women love my staying power, often all night. I am in my sixties. Overcoming that (mind) control and turning on the ejaculatory mode can become difficult though, sometimes, after hours of restraining the urge. One’s own ejaculatory pleasure doesn’t compare to the pleasure of her getting off again and again and again, becoming this radiant, glowing, transformed bundle of sheer joy and abandonment! When on my own, often mentally re-living the previous, controlled session, I ejaculate frequently and
reasonably quickly or extend the pleasure if so desired, this can be several times per day. In the long run, for older men, preserving one’s semen, I think would be good advice. I only seem to achieve this when in the constant presence of a female. It gives me more strength for the impending long controlled sessions. Love your work and attitude. Many thanks Gabrielle!
schooner man
Says:
let me tell you…i’m with a woman now that loves to watch me masturbate…it’s a huge turn-on for me!!!!she loves it when i cum on her…..also,i’ve found that if you keep stopping before you climax the final shot is GREAT!!!!!!!you’ve given ne an idea
Jim
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I have to agree that this defiantly helps the control. Now I would like to hear how woman can improve there control in this way. When a woman has sex and is not really into it yet it can feel to the man like he using a meat grinder. She needs to learn how to control hers to get the most out of his. Some woman have problems that I think this would fix as well.
Dueces
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Women have been self-pleasuring themselves for the longest time. They do it as much if not more frequently than men.
bazil
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Some of the best orgasams I have ever had have been on my own. My lady is older than me and has lost 90% of her sex drive now. But that does not matter to me because I have developed a method of mastabation that totaly satisfies me. I can easily get an erection, which I very gently and slowly work on untill I feel she is asleep. I then slowly raise one leg to give myself room to mastebate without moving the bed cloths. I then very, very slowly start mastebating with my thumb and fore finger in a ring aroung my penis. Sometimes with a little talc. powder to keep the action dry. slow and smooth. I do this somtimes for an hour using variations which include rubbing the underside of my helmet etc (slowly). I can totally controle when I come. I don’t make any noise at all nor any movement. The sensation is simply unbelievable and my orgasam can go on for half a minute. Try it, but don’t forget the tissues.
Best regards,
Bazil. xxx.
tom
Says:
its really right. ived done this, its better than taking a pills for erection. my wife love it, the longer the time the better..
tom
MT Guy
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I say, if you can’t make love to your sweetie tonight… give yourself a hand!