What You Can Learn from Her Sex Toy
It’s pretty common for a guy to be a little put off at first by his girl’s big, monster sex toy. A lot of men think that the vibrator or sex toy is there to replace them or because he isn’t quite delivering just right.
But you know what? You need to get over that feeling and pronto! Her sex toy will surprise you – in a pleasant way! – if you give it a chance and you’ll be amazed at how easily you can learn to like them just as much as she does.
3 Lessons You Can Discover from Your Girl’s Vibrator
• You can discover a whole new sensation by turning the vibe on and holding it to different parts of your body. Sure, her mouth feels good on your genitals, but a light vibration may feel even better! Don’t forget to try out the different speeds and intensities too.
• You can find erogenous zones that you never knew existed. You may have wondered what all the hype is about the perineum or ‘taint’. Using a vibrator on it may show you! And since some of you may be scratching your heads right now, here’s a little ‘Perineum 101’ for you: it refers to the little space between your balls and your backdoor.
• You may realize that something in your behind does actually feel good! Depending on the size/girth of the toy, you may be so inclined as to experiment with a little backdoor play while alone and away from possible judgment and learn that a finger or toy up the ass is NOT gross, DOES feel awesome and DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY!!!
Some Pluses about Using Sex Toys in Your Relationship
Once you and your ego have gotten over the ridiculous fear of being replaced by the scary plastic adult toy, there are a few hot things that you can do with sex toys in your relationship that could really make it worth considering.
Here are some bonuses that come from bringing sex toys into your relationship.
They make her a more sexual person. Why would you want to stop her from expressing or enjoying her sexuality with a toy or anything else for that matter?? Her using sex toys help to keep her sexual and who reaps the rewards of that? YOU, right?
They make for a great show. Watching your partner use her sex toy on herself is totally hot! Think of the X-rated display that you can have right there in front of you that doesn’t cost you $20 per 10 minutes and isn’t limited to the 15.4 small inches of your computer screen!
You can use it on her. Maybe it’s a power thing, but lots of men are turned on by inserting things into their partners and really taking their partner’s pleasure into their own hands—literally. Imagine how hot it’ll be to use it on her and watch as she writhes around in ecstasy!
It can heat things up. Let’s face it, sex can get a little routine or stale when you’ve been with the same person for a long time. Bringing sex toys into the bedroom can really help to spice things up for both of you. There’s a reason why they’re also referred to as ‘marital aids’, and that’s because they are proven to add a little something that doesn’t involve straying, when things are stuck in a rut. Check out toys made for couples or for guys too. You’ll be amazed at what you can find to help you both get off electronically!
For more naughty, seductive tips to enjoy the WILDEST sex ever, click here…
Art Lorenz Says:
Gabrielle,
I would love to feel a dildo up my butt, especially if my partner was at the operating end!!!!
Art
gav Says:
ye i have tryed it and it not bad
John Says:
Dear Gabrielle,
Once again, my dear, you’ve hit the nail on the head! (pun intended!)
First of all, to me, nothing is hotter than watching my wife masturbate with her toys: (Except maybe when I’m the one using them on her!)
And heres’ a little side tip: A blindfold and some fuzzy little sex play hand-cuffs can really make a difference! You can tie her up, blindfold her and really tease her with her toys!
This is the difference between sex and making love: Sex is a breif act and animals have it all the time without thinking about it.
Making love takes time, effort and thought. And it is SO much more satisfying! The sex act lasts just a few minutes: But a good love-making session can last ALL night!
Also guys, here’ a BIG tip:
We can last a few minutes when we have sex, but sometimes it takes some time for us to get hard again for round two. And women really do need multiple orgasms to really be satisfied: So after you have sex with your partner, break out the toys while you’re recovering!
You’ll get her hot and bothered and screaming all over again in no time flat, and you’ll find yourself getting hard again much quicker than you thought possible just watching her!
…and WITHOUT taking any stupid little pills that’ll probably be found to cause prostate cancer next year!!
Men are visually stimulated, and by using sex toys on your partner is a great way for doing just that! So either sit back and enjoy the show, or if you’re a ‘hands-on’ kind of guy like me, break out her vibe and take matters into your own hands!
Sometimes a good female masturbation/toy session is even worth video taping!
Personal note: My biggest fantasy is to see the missus with another woman. However, she does not happen to be into that sort of thing…
Never fear: Toys to the rescue!
For my Christmas present , I want to get her to make love to an inflatable woman on video! Dressed in sexy holiday costumes. And believe it or not if you do the lighting properly, an inflatable love doll can look remarkably REAL!
(BIG HINT: Use a RED light from a single overhead source.)
So, I finally get to see my girl-girl fantasy starring my wife, and although she may feel a little silly at the time doing it with an inflatable love doll, she knows how much the video means to me, and without actually having to have sex with another woman.
Another hot tip for guys who share this fantasy, but who’s wives may not be keen: A video of ‘mirror kissing’ is also hot! If you can position yourself and the camera properly, you can get a good 3/4 view of your wife/girlfriend kissing a full-sized mirror, it creates the illusion of a very hot girl-girl lesbian kiss!
And ladies, that is the perfect gift you could give your guy! (Its ironic that the ‘coolest’ thing a girl can do is act GAY! But let’s face it, men are hypocrites! We admit it!)
Ask 10 guys what their #1 fantasy is, and I guarantee at least 9 out of 10 will say ‘girl - girl’ scene!
Anyway, Gabrielle, I love your columns and your posts, and your book is the best investment in our relationship we’ve ever spent! And I just wanted to thank you again, for everything!
All the best!
John
PS: Incidentally, the doll we’ve chosen to use in this video is a blonde (Jessica Drake) doll called the ‘Perfect Secretery’ which is available from Adam & Eve products and is packed FREE with a DVD movie of the same name! -Unquestionably Recommended!
Charlotte Says:
Yes I can remember the days when the only way I could come to orgasm was with a vibrator…thank god! I mean, if I hadn’t discovered sex toys and the wonderful feelings they gave me, then maybe I wouldn’t have persevered with men! I might have given up sex for good!
Michael Says:
Excellent article. As a guy I have never feared encouraging my wife to explore sex toys together or by herself. More pleasure to her. I have even purchased a few for her on my own. However, it is much more fun to go sex toy shopping together. And of course there are many sexual accessories that don’t come from sex shops directly. Consider making your own ice dildo from a small plastic water bottle or get a selection of soft artist brushes to improve your sensual artistry.
Most guys like tools. I view sex toys as pleasure tools that allow me to fully explore my creative side.