Why Women ‘Fake It’
The other day I got an email from a subscriber.
He asked me WHY women fake orgasms. You see, he caught his lover self-pleasuring herself after they just made love!
He was perplexed because she was just shouting ‘yessssss!’ a couple of minutes ago in bed. So he asked her and she finally confessed that she actually didn’t come during their lovemaking session.
So for all you who are puzzled why women fake it, read on to find out why and what to do about it.
She doesn’t want YOU to feel bad.
Women are such loving and giving creatures, aren’t they? Since we know that men equate sex with power and pretty much what makes a man a man, most women will fake it to avoid making their partners feel bad.
Admit it; men get an ego boost when they can really pleasure a woman. And WE know this. So instead of making our partners feel inadequate in bed, we’d rather pretend an orgasm to protect our lovers’ self-confidence.
Of course, there IS a flaw to this way of thinking. Women are as responsible about their orgasms as men are. However, society has not brought us up this way.
Traditionally, it’s up to men to make us women feel good in bed and so in many cases today, both genders try to (falsely) cater to this mentality.
She feels bad about not coming.
For the women who already acknowledge that they too are responsible for their climaxes, not being able to do so is kind of a blow to our ego too!
Some may even think that there’s something ‘wrong’ with them physically so instead of trying to find the answer, they ‘fake it’ to avoid addressing the fact that they cannot climax.
She does not want to stop having sex with you.
Another reason why women fake it is because they do NOT want to stop sexual relations with you. You see, for women, it’s not always about orgasms. It’s about connecting and having a great relationship. For women, these two don’t necessarily mean reaching an orgasm.
So instead of disappointing your expectations in bed, which can make you feel less prone to have sex, women will ‘fake it’ to encourage sex to continue.
What men – and women – should understand is that an orgasm should not be the sole objective of sex. If this is how you look at lovemaking then you’re setting yourselves up for disappointment. You can do darn well without that pressure of having to reach a climax all the time.
On the other hand, it shouldn’t be that she never reaches an orgasm during sex or fakes it 100% of the time.
You should both explore the things that can make her reach a climax. The techniques you learn and apply may work on some days and not on other days… and that should be OK for both of you.
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